• Me and You and Bryan Espiritu Nov 09.09
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Sunday November 08.09
I just read a dope post on Marcus Troy’s blog regarding the perception others have of you and how you can’t control what people think. You can only control your outputs, whether they be on your blog, Twitter, in person, or otherwise.
And it got me thinking…
I thought about how my last update on TheLegendsLeague was so introspective, so inside of my own head, so dissecting of my personal perceptions of my social and psychological “issues”, and how these confessions had the ability to do a few things.
The 2 things that I thought about most were:
1. How can admitting to your flaws actually have the potential to bind you to them?
and
2. How can these things change the perception that others have of you?
- 1.
The first question is something that plagues a lot of people. We say things like, “I’m a slow learner”, or “I can’t draw”. And really all that does is tie us to those negative statements.
Something that I learned from doing P90X earlier this year was how to look at what you “can’t do” as something that you “currently struggle with”. This simple statement gives you the opportunity to grow from the starting point that you are at right now. And that’s an important aspect of continuing to feel alive. Growth. Change. Personal improvement. It’s what I want for myself. And it’s also what I hope for you in posting some of the content that I do.
- 2.
The second question is pretty important in my case. Many people who aren’t familiar with me on a person-to-person level, are only aware of my personality on the internet; my “Online Persona” so to speak. This is true for so many of us who have been able to infiltrate the web world and spread our beliefs, blogs, beefs, and/or businesses through ethernet cables and onto the dining room tables of living, breathing, opinionated individuals. People who matter. People who will either support our beliefs, blogs, beefs, and/or businesses, or decide to click elsewhere. Perhaps clicking somewhere more comfortable, somewhere more welcoming, or somewhere a little less abrasive, because it’s what they’re used to, and frankly, it’s just a little bit more pleasant than constant downers.
If my (or your) outputs are always negative, self-deprecating, or depressing, how can they look to me (or you) as a leader? If that is what I (or you), are actually seeking to be? If my (or your) outputs are always surreal stories of fantastical successes and self-promoting, me-me-me indulgence, how can they look to me (or you) as a human-being? If that is what I (or you), are actually seeking to be?
“We’re all human.”
is a statement we make
only when we are wrong.
I’ve been told time and again that the things that I post on my blog and say on my Twitter account are 1 of 2 things, (and sometimes both): Honest, and Random. I appreciate this sort of feedback. Honesty is something that I pride myself on. But every now and then when I see the “Random” response, I get a little bit frustrated. I think, “For fuck sakes, I’m actually hurting right now. I’m upset. How is what I’m saying “Random”?! Why doesn’t anyone get it?”. And then I have to consider this –
Our intentions need to be matched by our communications.
If my intention is to make someone laugh – I tell a joke. If it’s to make someone think – I write something reflective. If it’s to make someone aware of my current state – I write from my gut, unapologetically. But if I do these things in very quick succession to one another, what does it communicate?
A whole lot of “Random” shit.
And for some, this “Random”ness means reality. It means that I am human. It means that I feel and think. I fail and sink. I win and swim, and find shore for sure. And in the end, I write it all down for everyone to see, read, take in, spit out, rinse and repeat.
But for others, this “Random”ness means flaws and only flaws. It means shakiness, uncertainty, instability, and inconsistency. And for the most part, this is what I assume is the impression that must be left on those just getting to know me.
So what if we’re human? Everybody loves the hero for being super. And everyone loses the average man amid the crowd, no matter how nice his suit is.
Me and You and Bryan Espiritu
Your opinion as readers of my blog, followers of my brand, supporters of my business, matters to me. What I’ve always done with TheLegendsLeague is project ideas, share thoughts and opinions, and shed some light on the things that influence and inspire me – good and bad. I’ve always been open to responses, accepting of criticisms, and candid in my expression. But where I excel in sharing, I lack in seeking. And so I’m asking YOU for your opinions, your perspectives, and for a little bit of info on who you are.
Copy & Paste the questions below into the Comments Section, answer them honestly, and post them. As important as it is for me to continue to do my thing how I’ve always done it, it’s equally important for me to know how those things have affected the people that matter most.
- Name:
Age:
Gender:
Where are you from?
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
Anything else you wanna add:
I wanna send a shout out to Marcus Troy and Jesse Jones for being huge inspirations to me lately, and really sparking this update. I also wanna send a shout to my brother Will, who has spoken to me a number of times about whether he should put a Q&A on his blog, and now just tells me when he thinks it’s time to post a new one up. I’ve always admired his ability to connect to those who support his work and writing, and took a page out of his book, (or shared a page as he said), in doing this.
I can’t wait to hear from you guys.
Welcome To TheLegendsLeague
Love&Respect as usual,
- Bryan ‘be.’ Espiritu
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really glad to see this type of writing again dude.
Thanks Amadeusz. You’re actually one of the people I was wanting feedback from. Now fill out the goddamn Q&A!! lol.
Thank you for sharing and allowing others to inspire you.
Peace
MT
Name: Dj
Age: 17
Gender: Male
Where are you from? Arizona
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
Would be pretty amazing if we had, but no I’m almost +ve we haven’t met before. I REstumbled upon your site almost a year back, when I was waiting for So Far Gone to drop on Octobers Very Own. But I had been on it previously just a couple months before then when Drake had shouted you out, “…Bryan E…” That night I spent a good hour or two going through your site, reading the posts about your life, excerpts from your book, etc. I’ve been one of those creepy frequent lurker types ever since.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
That you were someone that had thoughts on your mind, and this blog was more of a way for you to make sense of them for yourself than for others reading pleasure. It’s the same now except I respect it a lot more now.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I ask myself that question everyday haha But truthfully, I hope they are. I always second guess myself whenever I write anything (even this here) because thought is put into it. I’m never sure how genuine I can be when I have things like backspace, where I can edit my thoughts. Though they are my thoughts that I post, pictures that I like, quotes that mean something to me, it is still me showing others what I want them to see I guess. I think it’s that way with everything on the Internet, we give people pieces and let them put the puzzle together the way they want.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
It’s as accurate as it’s going to get I guess. Many of us don’t and probably will never know you personally in “real life”, but because you give us these different aspects of yourself we get really close. I’m not an artist but I know there has never been two identical pieces ever. Even copies are missing pixels or the same art was made with different strokes. It’d be wrong of us to think that the you we piece together is the person you see in the mirror, but it doesn’t make it any less accurate.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
There’s 24 hours in your day, and 7 days in your week. You are fighting off thoughts for that entire time and manage to post every couple days a small amount of that. I’m sure there is still a lot you could give us if you wanted.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
It’s going to sound way contradictory to what I put up top, but no I don’t. I leave here sated everyday, whether it be from new posts or old, so I’m happy.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
I’d be lying if I said I have agreed with everything you put up here or haven’t been left a little taken a back by some of the things you’ve written, but I have atleast been affected by each and everything. I think that’s the best part of your blog and great people for that matter. There’s never been a time when I’ve clicked the little X on your tab without thinking about what I’ve just read. I grow a little each time I stop by.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
That I appreciate you having it up. There’s a fearlessness about opening up (no matter what size or part of) your life to critique or praise. So thanks for that.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
No questions. Just a lot of thank you’s, brozooka. ^_^
“I’m never sure how genuine I can be when I have things like backspace, where I can edit my thoughts.”
That’s real shit right there yo. Thank you so much for this. It’s great to make some kind of sense of the affect that what you do has on people so you can move forward in a way that moves them forward as well. Or at least moves them in a way that keeps their mind working.
Respect.
Damn. I just noticed that you’re 17.
Pretty well spoken for a 17 year old dude.
you took the sentence that stood out for me as well bry and I was thinking the same damn thing about him the whole time i was reading that!!!
Name: Ted
Age: 19
Gender: M
Where are you from? FL
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
I first heard about your blog while looking around October’s very own.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
I only just recently discovered your blog about a little less then a month ago. My first impression is that you seem like a genuinely real and honest dude. It might just be because you think out loud on your blog or maybe its just how you naturally are.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I’m not on twitter. I’d rather just update my facebook status, same idea basically. With some people I think its an accurate portrayal. However at times it feels like people try and follow the crowd.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I don’t have a blog but I do think a blog should be an accurate portrayal of who you are. It’s what makes it different from the other blogs out there.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
I do think you express alot but I wouldn’t say too much. I think that’s what gives me the idea that you’re a genuinely real dude because from what I can tell you put it out there 100% from concentrate, not watered down lol. Even when it comes to personal issues you don’t mind sharing w/ your readers.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
I feel I do say or express too little at times. Mainly because after I say/express what ever it is, later on I think of a better way it could have been said or expressed which leaves me feeling misunderstood. But also because sometimes what I said didn’t accomplish what I thought it would.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
Your blog did kind of tweak my perspective on the past. When I first came to the site I read what LegendsLeague was about and I thought about how everything I have seen or experienced in the past played a role in shaping who I am today. You have also helped me to think about the strength that is waiting for me on the other side of the obstacles strategically placed in the path of my future.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
What do you think holds people back from realizing their potential and bringing it out?
I’ve answered these questions more than once, so I’ll spare you the details.
The first thing I thought, even before I read your comments… “He’s 17??” Really, really well spoken Dj.
“There’s never been a time when I’ve clicked the little X on your tab without thinking about what I’ve just read. I grow a little each time I stop by.” True.
Backspace Full Stop
Name: Francis
Age: 27
Gender:M
Where are you from? Ontario
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
I heard about the blog through http://www.lostinthewillderness.com
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
I first noticed the ‘heartbroken crewneck’ and I thought to myself “this dude is a genius” no word of a lie! Based on that, I began reading through the blog and found you to be someone who speaks with sincerity and certainty. My impression remains the same to this day.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Yes, simply because Its all my thoughts
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I don’t have one, but if I did, I would imagine it would portray my thoughts, my likes, dislikes etc.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Yea I feel thats the case, but Im sure there could be some things that aren’t exactly portrayable online as they would be seen in ‘real life’
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
Not at all .. as a reader, you feel welcome
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
yea just a little
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
Definitely, there are times when you’ll bring up some old posts like the biggie sketch or the loudmouths logo, and I sit back and think ‘i been sleeping’ or the posts where you talk about spending time with your daughter inspired me to want to start a family.. I get a little emotional seeing that stuff (no richard simmons)
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
Did you know
I actually seen you in person, at Circa. I was on my way out and I happened to pass by while you were talking with one of the guys from livestock.
I wasn’t about to interrupt the convo just to say ‘waddup I love yur blog man’ lol.. I hate when people do that so I kept it moving.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
thats a tough one.. I feel most of the answers are in the blog.
Anything else you wanna add:
thats it for now
Regards
i’m not going to answer these questions because my filters on my outputs are probably too high (maybe that makes me less honest than everyone else?). i find i filter what i say online quite a bit – sometimes i’ll be dying to post something on my twitter about what i’m feeling at that moment, but then think to myself that i don’t want to share that with absolutely everyone out there. there are a few people out there that i have little/no filters with, but for me, as i’m sure with a lot of other people, a certain element of trust has to be established before we bare our souls. and this is where things get complicated.
ultimately we choose who we trust, and thus share with (at least in my case). but in choosing these people we come across your problem of our perceptions of them. they may be filtering themselves just as much as we are ourselves, thus making it difficult to accurately choose the “right” people to share with. like it or not, we categorize (or ‘list’) the people we know on one level or another so we know how to be with them – what subjects we can connect on, what info we can share, what boundaries we have with each other. we categorize as people in almost everything because it helps us understand what we’re looking at when we can see the similarities and differences. so naturally, we categorize our friends, we loose vital info on them and multiple new connection points that we dismiss because they don’t fall neatly into our categories. in all honesty, i like to think that we can have (almost) any type of relationship with any type of person, if we allow ourselves and dismiss our categories or lists. but we don’t. it’s easy to see how multifaceted we are ourselves because of all the different people we can be in our different relationships, but we rarely allow that type of freedom to others when we look at them – narcissism at its finest.
And all this makes me wonder: what’s to say that we see ourselves more accurately than the people we interact with? maybe their perceptions of who we are hold more weight than our own? it’s hard to say, especially because we see our own history that has lead us up to this point, where as they just see how we are at this point. and regardless of our history and past selves, we are who we are now; not then. so who’s perception is the most accurate?
i used to have a blog where i wrote about the funny drinking + drug stories of of my teenage years. i like to think that at least some of my readers ‘got it’, but really doubt it. through this blog’s short life, i could feel people’s perceptions of me change into thinking i was just some fucked up kid. but my intent was to speak on those moments we all had when we were younger with a bit of humor. i have since deleted the blog because although these people’s opinions of me shouldn’t matter (and they haven’t change what i think of myself), they do in turn affect other aspects of your life. and that’s probably one of the turning points in when i decided to start filtering my online outputs a bit more. socially i have a bit less control, as i don’t have the option to sit at my desk and ‘edit’ what i put out there, but that’s probably the case with everyone.
now when i look at people, i try (not always 100% successful) to look at them the same way i would look at myself. so with you, bryan, i like to think that i understand who you are based on your outputs, but how can i be sure?
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Where are you from? California but currently in MD
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
- Nope never met in person. I just recently became interested in blogs this year and started to research what was out there and see if it was something I really wanted to do. My thought was that it would be better than the “other” social networks because it doesn’t have to be social at all. Started at one blog that took me to another, another, and then yours. I was bored already and then I read a poem that seemed more like spoken thought than a planned out rhythmic poem. I fell in love with it. It was harsh but it intrigued me so that I kept reading. I scanned through the rest of the blog going as far back as my eyes would allow. I have been hooked ever since.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
- One word: Intriguing. Now: It’s mostly the same.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
- Honestly no. Not all the time. There is so much more to me that 140 characters. I feel I have so much more to say but look at the screen and have no clue what to type. I ask myself if what I am thinking will 1. matter to anyone but the family members following 2. is that even what twitter is for 3. I don’t need people in my business like that. At the same time even if I want to portray something else or someone else I cannot. I think that my whole pretending portion of my brain was removed :) because I just can’t seem to do it any other way but be ME!
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
- Eh, I am having a little bit of trouble with that. As stated above I wasn’t sure that a blog is what I wanted to do. Then after reading your blog and a few of the folks you have linked to your blog I was inspired. I had one angle then another, and another so in some sorts it is because my mind has so many thoughts and angles that I don’t want to pick one over the other. But it also makes me not update my blog.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
I think it is a part of your thoughts of who you think you are but not completely who you are. If I met you on the street I have this odd feeling that you would not even come off as the type of guy that would even have time to blog or that it just would not be your thing. The way you express yourself on this blog is like one of the many reflections of you. I see you opening up here what you may not sit down with a friend and open up. It’s like one of those fun house mirrors where there are many mirrors around you and so many angles of you are reflected. These are only one of many that make you a whole person and the twitter another and so on.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
- I do not always comment but I do read almost every one of your post and when I do comment I say please don’t stop what you are doing. It’s changing someone. It’s moving. I think you express exactly enough.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
- All the time. One of your posts touched on this issue for me. Although it may not be identical to what you posted but relevant all the same. “Seclusion, Trains of Thought, and Doubt” I start to type then hit DELETE and close my laptop. On the other hand I can say “F” it like this comment and speak truthfully with minor edits :).
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
- Simple: Yes!
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
- Going off your tweets probably nothing. But I am a fan and love what you do. I thank you for what you share from your life, mind, soul, and heart. Although not for me I appreciate it as such. Ha cause I can! :)
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
- What makes you hold on and not let go when times are rough? Who/What saves you from you?
Anything else you wanna add:
- Respect, love and many thanks!
For those of you who didn’t fill out the Q&A question for question, I understand. You guys have posted comment after comment on this blog, have carried conversations with me in person or through email, and we already know what the business is with each other. I appreciate your honesty, your input, and your support – always.
For those of you reading this post: If you decide against reading the existing comments, please read Phil’s comment at the very least. It holds a million truths in it’s opinions on who we are to ourselves vs. who we are to the world and which one of these selves is “true”. Well put homey. Thanks for taking the time.
Reading through these answers, I get the feeling that you guys may not always see what I see, or agree with what I put out, but you can at least appreciate the fact that (it appears to be) an honest portrayal of my thoughts and ideas.
I thought about this question & answer thing, and figured, “Who am I to ask questions without answering them myself?” so here are my answers, and hopefully they’ll touch on some of what you guys have said so far:
Name: Bryan Espiritu (be., Bryan E., etc, etc)
Age: 28
Gender: Male
Where are you from? Toronto
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
For the most part, I don’t think I’ve met many of my blog readers, especially those that comment. I went to high school with Mafa, have known Phil for a second, but as far as anyone else who has commented on this post, the answer is: No.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
My impression of you guys is that you’ll at least give back what you receive. I don’t think that everyone who reads my blog feels quite as comfortable as you guys to share their opinions since my readership stats vs. comment counts are so heavily unbalanced. This doesn’t upset me, it just makes me appreciate those of you who do leave an opinion a little bit more, makes me understand that the silent opinions of those who don’t comment are to remain personal, and makes me think that for some, this blog is a shock to the senses when it’s at it’s most candid. My first impression of everyone who comments on this blog for the first time is: This person hasn’t spent enough time on here to realize that I’m not the type of person they want to spend ‘enough’ time with. I’m mostly secluded, and stuck in my thoughts, and when they realize this place isn’t what they’re looking for, they’ll be off to some other destination. Is my impression still the same after you guys make 1000 repeat visits? No. And you always prove me wrong. So, thank you.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I am on twitter. Follow me HERE. My twitter account is a micro-version of this blog. It’s for the thoughts that are so randomly appearing in my mind that if I don’t put them down, they’ll go forgotten and lost, and mean nothing. I’m a creative person. And that creativity easily goes to waste when you don’t share it. If the response to my twitter account is that I’m a wacko, or that I’m hilarious, or that I’m an emo supremo, or that I hate my life, love my life, love my wife, and see my daughter every Sunday, then I’m doing a damn good job in portraying who I am on it. I use it to speak outwardly, much like this blog. But unlike this blog, the response back from my twitter is less important to me because each micro-thought that I put out on it is sometimes so irrelevant and random that I’m not always looking for a response from my followers beyond a chuckle or a nod.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Yes. I have a blog. And you’re on it right now. lol. Is this blog an accurate portrayal of who I am? Absolutely. But what this blog isn’t is a complete portrayal of who I am. There is a type of love that only my daughter receives from me that cannot be replicated because it’s so particular to her that I wouldn’t waste it on anyone else. There is a side of my personality that is shared only with my lady because she knows me better than anyone on the planet and deserves every ounce of the person that I am. And then there’s everything else. All of that “Everything Else” is spilled out on this blog. I know that contradicts one of my taglines: Anything Less, Would Be Everything Else. But what I see in my blog that I don’t see in many others is an admission to failure or need for improvement that isn’t an egotistical sob story. All of that shit, to me, is dumb see-through. And it does nothing for me but think that most people are too shallow to cry without worrying about their mascara running down their face. Too worried about the impression, not concerned enough with the expression. My blog has and always will be about expression at it’s most honest.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
I am a fucking whirlwind in real life. So if we’re out, I’m drinking Heinekens til the lights come on or my lights go out. If I’m at home, I could be so depressed that I don’t wanna see anyone. When I’m with my daughter, I won’t stop smiling. If you see me on the train, I’m probably in a pissed off mood. I go through so many emotions through the course of a day that the only way I can describe myself in “real life” is “Unpredictable”. But there’s been a huge change since I started to see greater success in my brand, in my blog, and in my career as a designer: My respect for other peoples feelings when they are around me has changed greatly. And so it’s important that I treat those around me with as much authentic response as I feel our relationship warrants because I care about their happiness and want them to laugh, think, and have a quality time when I’m around.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
Sometimes I wish I hadn’t started this blog or TheLegendsLeague. It take a lot out of me to be this candid. I feel very vulnerable at times. And very misunderstood most times. Have I put a cap on my expressiveness? No. But I have put a cap on some of the information I share on this blog. A lot of creepy things have happened to me with readers and such in the past, so I need to be aware of the safety of myself and those around me.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
What? lol.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
The comments that you guys have left on some of my posts have definitely changed my opinions on a few things and have most definitely helped me through some of my hardest times. It’s nice to know that your yells are being heard, and even nicer when they’re not just echoed, but actually responded to. Thank you for that.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
As the writer of this blog I want you to know this: I grew up going through a lot of therapy and being on a couple of medications for a couple of psychological and behavioral issues. I was used to talking to people and letting them know everything about me. It was actually pretty weird to not tell everything about me because the privacy of my life was so freely handed from doctor to doctor and center to center by my parents that I didn’t know any different. And when you’re 12 years old, other 12 year olds wanna know your business. So you tell them. I found that this did 2 things: It secluded me and made me an outcast. But it also magnetized people towards me.
I write this blog to relieve my ongoing life stresses, display my writing and artwork, and continue to share my opinions and stories. Am I afraid that it will seclude me and continue to make me an outcast? Of course. But that doesn’t stop me from writing since the opportunity for this blog to magnetize towards the real emotions of others holds too great a potential to pass up in the face of fear.
I also want you to know this: It’s motivating to hear that you read my blog and take in my views on things. When you see me in the street, say, “Whassup”. So long as you’re not interrupting me on a phone call or something, I’m a pretty responsive dude and will definitely slap hands and shoot the shit if we get the chance.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
What other blogs do you guys read? And why.
Anything else you wanna add:
I appreciate your readership, your comments, opinions and honesty a lot.
Love&Respect as usual.
be.
Name: Heinz
Age: 27
Gender: Moleman
Where are you from? Btown
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
- Yeah we have and it has only been a few times which kind of sucks. The first time i’m pretty sure it was the Black Milk concert outside of Reivival. But everyone that knows me, knows that i’m not much of an industry guy and majority of the time i’ve known you (or known of you) we ran in different circles. We don’t hit each other up as often as I would like but sometimes life and work is so busy that I sometimes get lost in it. I can only speak for myself but those have been my reasons.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
- You were one of the first designers from the city to hit me up and were really supportive and encouraging. I’ve always appreciated that especially after checking your work after u first inboxed me on Facebook. It meant/means a lot to me when guys like you and Brock show love. This was my first impression of you. Someone who reached out to show some love….since then you have been an asshole. lol jk. Forreal my impression has never changed, whenever I do have a conversation with you, read your tweets, or read your blog I walk away being inspired or being impressed by the honesty in your words.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
- Yeah I do. I mean its an accurate portrayal of the silly, fun shit I think about, but not me as a complete person.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
- I’ll answer this when I get one lol
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
- Yes I actually do think it is. I think some people walk away after reading your tweets that you could be an asshole if they don’t have a sense of humour.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
- I don’t really think there is a certain degree of how much a person SHOULD express. I think its different for everyone and whatever that person feels comfortable expressing. You really truly live by the code of wearing your heart on your sleeve and thats admirable.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
- Again I think I express as much as I feel I should. Some days i feel like wearing my heart on my sleeve, sometimes i’m more reserved. It all depends on what the situation or medium is.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
- Your blog and work boost my confidence when I doubt myself. Thinking back to when guys like you, brock, stirling or fwmj reached out to me to show love and maybe saw something in me that others or myself didn’t see.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
- That even tho we’ve only met a handful of times I consider you a friend.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
- Be one of the first to reply to an entry whenever I get a site up?
Anything else you wanna add:
- I’d like to add It’s too late to be up. I’m gone to bed. lol
Name: Zach Goodchild
Age: 22
Gender: Male
Where are you from?: Orlando, Florida
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
- I came across your blog through Octobers Very Own blog. I have been an avid and proud Drake/OVO fan and supporter since 2006, by the time the OVO blog was established, it was one of my daily websites I visited. When a link to LL was put up I checked it out, and like the supporter from Arizona, I spent hours going through almost every post and just simply explored the entire website. I was fasincated with your content, your life story, graphic designs and just the whole vibe of the site. The first night I read your blog I visited the Ideall store and I was HOOKED on the clothing (my entire closet right now is a majority of Ideall Clothing), the rest is history.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
- Brutaly honest, blunt, creative like none other, hilarious and interesting humor. I could honestly go on and on. It is still the same but to a much bigger extent. I respect your craft.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
- I ussualy use my twitter account to network and share information, not much thought process is put into my tweets.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
- No blog, at the moment. I write for MogulMonologues.com and I do enjoy the content that I get to put up and share with the masses.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
- Yes. Your content is always different from others in a good way, and its always interesting to see what will go up next.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
- No, I think what you are putting out for the public to see is something that you dont see much. It gives us insight to certain things and opens up minds!
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
- Yes. I think if I could have a platform to express and say specfic things about me and my life, like you have with LL, It would be a totally different story.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
- Yes! I enjoy reading and learning about you and your personal struggles, it definatley provides insight and like I said above, your content really opens up my mind.
Anything else you wanna add: Cant wait for Ideall 2010
Marcus’ Troy writing is impeccable and so is yours. I would’ve loved to answer the questions but I don’t think it applies to people who don’t know you as well.
http://joliefolie20.livejournal.com/
:)
this made me smile.
Hope you’re well my brother.
Name: Crystal Coburn
Age: 26
Gender: Female
Where are you from? Raised in Brampton (currently living there), born in Toronto
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
Yessir. First time was at Shuffle (I still remember the salute) after I had been following your blog for a bit and been an active 2-cents worth kind of contributor.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
My first impression was more about your voice, which you already know. Based on your words I had already created a voice in my head that had more bass, more anger and pain, so when I heard a piece you recited here and then again in person I was a little shocked that you sounded normal and calm, no offense.
The thing is I was really nervous about first meeting you because I wasn’t confident you would care to or be very receptive to it. It’s not that I thought you would rudely brush me off but I thought you might not even recognize me. It sounds kind of ummm, insecure to admit that you’re worried someone you’ve never met before will like you or even be interested in meeting you because they really don’t know you but I actually cared about what you thought of me. I guess that says something about what I think of you. Maybe if I didn’t care what you thought it would probably mean you didn’t hold much weight in my eyes. But what you do here is priceless.
Nonetheless I was happy to see that it didn’t turn out that way.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I’m no longer on Twitter. I was for a couple of weeks but I wasn’t updating as often as thought I should so I deleted it. I didn’t feel like what I was tweeting was catching anyone’s interest anyway.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Yes I think mine is an accurate portrayal of who I am although I know there is a lot missing in regards to who I fully am. So the pieces that are there are completely me, just not all of me.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Most definitely. You wear your heart on your sleeve in a way that I rarely see people do. However, since you’re so candid sometimes what you write in your statuses puts me off. Sometimes I’m not even sure if its safe to comment. Sooo although you’re honest how I receive that may be a bit different from the way you intend it to be. To be honest sometimes I think that my opinion on whatever you’ve posted might be laughable to you. Hopefully that makes sense :s.
PS: I’m really trying to be honest here and not backspace too much.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
No I don’t. Although what I said above might sound contradicting I think what you are willing to say in front of everyone is admirable. You’re exposed and vulnerable to whatever might get thrown back at you. So that alone is never too much.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
No. Sometimes I feel like I’m saying too much actually because I’ll come right back to a post I’ve already commented on. Or I’ll come back to one that was posted a while ago. So like I said, if anything I think I should muzzle it sometimes, although I usually don’t because I really do think my opinion matters.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
YES. Where do I even begin?? Pretty much your blog makes me wish I could be just as reckless with my honesty as you are. When I say that I mean that in reference to my thoughts and feelings about what’s going on in my life. I really believe there is a lot to be gained from exposing myself more often. I’m working on working on that, although it’s a struggle.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
Hmmm. Umm I never really though about that. I guess I would like you to know that I take what goes on here pretty seriously, more seriously than some people in my life would be willing to understand and for that purpose alone I don’t often share most of the things I experience here. I just feel like they won’t “get it.”
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
I asked you this already but since I have yet to receive a response I’ll ask you again. What role do you play in the development of your daughter’s self-image as a woman? It’s a loaded question, I know. But like I said before I’m really interested to know what your perspective is on this because I’m not sure if fathers who are active participants in their daughter’s lives fully understand how much what they do and don’t do shapes a young girl’s thoughts and feelings about herself. So it’s not meant as an opportunity to “judge” what you do, but rather just get your honest opinion.
Anything else you wanna add:
I over think way too much. About everything. So I guess I just wanna say…that.
this is for you from a mutual reader.
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Submitted on 2009/11/17 at 1:06am
Ok so let me start with a disclaimer…..This has absolutely nothing to do with this post.
Now I was reading LL blog and he had this little survey up so I decided to answer the call of duty lol wow ok that was wack…..on to the next one. The reason I am posting the answers to it on your blog is because it said something about spam,so it wouldn’t let me post it there. If you could please give him the message to come and look for my opinion here it would be appreciated. However there is a question for you at the end.
Here I go…..
Name: Kyla not Kayla….I know what my freakin names is
Age:19
Gender: those creatures from Venus
Where are you from? Arizona via Cali
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
Nope. Heard about you through Will’s blog.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
Well to be honest I don’t really read this blog that often, but when I do it’s always the suicidal stuff. So I thought you were crazy. Not crazy in the sense that you were mentally ill but that you would be so bold as to let people you’re never met nor seen inside your head like that.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I have a twitter and only tweeted once, and it said….Trying to figure out why I made a twitter page
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Don’t have one, it seems like a fad nowadays.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Never met you sir, and if that wasn’t what you meant by “real life” then please explain what you meant.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
There is no such thing as expressing/saying/giving to much. Give it all you got.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
Hell no, I’m trying to figure out how to do more. I’m so misunderstood, no matter what I do nobody seems to get it, but I try anyways.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
I’m a lostinthewilldernessholic so whatever you give Will gets to me somehow, so for that I have to say thank you. Will has changed for the better since meeting you. His blog was always sincere and heartfelt, but I think he is more of a critical thinker and analyzer thanks to you.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
Have you ever taken a personality test called the Meyers-Brigg test?….If so do you agree with the results?
Anything else you wanna add: I also would like to thank you for responding to your comments. That shit makes me feel somehow important, especially when I had a bad day. (No offense Will, I know your busy and all)
Will: Hows that “I’m not drinking anymore” thing going?
This is dope dawg and though provoking. I enjoy reading your shit lol
Name: BIGDOUG72
Age: 36
Gender: MALE
Where are you from? TORONTO (these days by way of the burbs)
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
Yeah we pushed them pixels together at work.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
A down ass dude. Before you came back to work full-time, people in the office had your name in their mouths, and I was like “Who’s this Bryan cat”? JC, Rose, etc would always fill me in on past office exploits/anecdotes involving you. So your rep preceded you well before we actually met in person when you came back to the office. Also, being black, and someone who routinely ‘plays the game’ at the office (ie being able to relate and establish rapport in a professional atmosphere with people you’d have no interest in dealing with outside of that setting) it was a breath of fresh air to meet down-ass people at work, with you of course being one of them. I could walk out of a meeting with a bunch of suits after fake-laughing at the wackest of wack jokes, then sit down at my desk and launch into a 80s/90s Hip hop YouTube SoundClash battle with you, JC, etc… I could step out of the facade of the @Work version of me and build with people as the real me. That shit is rare as hell and I value your contribution to me being able to do that in the office. As far as my impression of you goes, when we met you were a decent dude with similar interests/tastes. Now you’re that same dude… but with a voice, with a brand, and with a message. And for that you’ve earned mad respect from me.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Always. But I don’t put my whole life out there. I mostly use it to communicate to all my peoples across the globe. I don’t “micro-blog”. Twitter is a communication tool for me, nothing more.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I’m not a blogging type of dude. I’d rather say what needs to be said through my work, my creative outlets, etc… I’m hella opinionated and I do comment on other people’s blogs, etc… adding my 2 cents. But as for a blog of my own? I’d rather motherfuckers watch what I do in other areas of my life.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Do I think you’re fronting online? Hahaha… obviously not. I think thw online shit is an extension of you that allows you to communicate in ways you couldn’t on a day to day basis being face to face with people.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
You express what you need to express. Not to get all Zen and shit, but if you gravitate toward the BB or Macbook to get online to post something somewhere, it’s probably because you need to.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
Again… you give what you give. What’s too little for some may be waaay too much for others. But people need to shut the fuck up and take what they get. It is what it is.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
Hasn’t really helped me with anything personally, but you make me think from time to time, which is why I continue to check for your shit.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
Something about me that I’d want you to know? I guess just watch what I do… and give your honest feedback. It is valued.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
How many small children have you employed to help bag up all that IdeaLL gear to be shipped?!? It has to be getting insane now! Hahaha… on the real I guess I’d just ask are you happy with where you’re headed? Is shit progressing the way you want? As someone who actively supports all his people (MOSS, OBIE TRICE – Special Reserve, in stores Dec 15th!!!) if there’s any way I can help you with your shit, lemme know.
Anything else you wanna add:
Yes. Keep doing your thing. You obviously didn’t need me to tell you that but I’m saying it regardless. Stay on your hustle, beware of fake ass shark motherfuckers that will derail your dream… catch that shit EARLY and avoid it, and continue to do you.
Name:Gabriel
Age:18
Gender:m
Where are you from?Ponce, Puerto Rico
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)Twitter
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now? I can relate to a lit if what you say
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are? Haha a little too accurate
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”? I’d like to believe so
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
absolutely not man it’s nice to see that I’m not the only one that thinks a certain way
Do you think you say/give/express too little?n/a
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything? No buts it’s reinforced thoughts
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?you can’t make anybody want to get to know you, but you hope that you’re words and actions speak for themselves and portray you as an individual that people would think that getting to know you would be a mental investment
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?how’d you get to where you are today
Anything else you wanna add: your tweets are entertaining and most welcoming
Name: Mr. B
Age: 30
Gender: Male
Where are you from? Toronto
Have we ever met in person?
Yes a few times, city/scene is too small to not have at least once lol!
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
First impression was of your work and not your person (playstation 3 ads I believe you did…on the ttc?) and didn’t even know it was your work until later so my first honest unbiased opinion was I thought you were talented…had a good eye for design etc.
…impression now? Not much different other than a greater sense of your background (from this blog)…seems that you are (from what I can read) seeking to let go of things (the past…bad habits…old ways of thinking) and trying to live a better ‘now’ as best you can…but still battle personal demons and struggle to leave out of your present life.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Twitter is for shitters…so I’ve been told…I haven’t ever logged into it or read anything off it other than what people spam on FB.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
No Blog…I keep my people updated in person/phone…those who are a part of (or want to be of) my life keep in touch…those who don’t…well…fall by the wayside. I think its easier to figure out who your friends are that way rather than ‘accumulating’ them as a counter on a facebook/twitter/myspace.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Probably close but more thought out and less ‘reactive’…its alot easier to be composed and concise behind a keyboard…I’m sure we are all a little more honest than we realise in person…
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
No…I don’t personally believe there is such a thing…
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
No, I am an open book and if anyone asks my opinion it does nobody any good to pay lip service and make people feel better by bullshitting…I’m free in how I choose to express myself and don’t censor my words unless I deem it fit to do so.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
Personally no…changed my perspective? Of course…anytime someone shares a point of view its a piece to a greater puzzle…I always appreciate a fresh look at something.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
Freedom and Oblivion are not the same thing…suicide doesn’t bring release from pain only carries it forward with you into whatever lay next for us in the universe. Freedom is the long hard road of truly letting go of all things past…
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
If you aren’t religious (I don’t know to be honest) what form of faith keeps you going?
Anything else you wanna add:
Keep sharing…=)
Name: Chantle Beeso
Age: 18
Gender: Female
Where are you from? Toronto, Baby.
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?
Yes. And we do not see enough of each other as of lately.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
I was a tad intimidated, simply because you were interviewing me! But my first thought was, ‘man, this guy looks really cool.’ As to what exactly I mean by ‘coo,’ I’m not sure. But you were funny and I really wanted to be in creative arts if you were going to be my mentor.
My impression of you has change, only for the better. I still think you’re cool. I still think you’re funny. And I know that you are genuine and caring and are the epitome of creativeness.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I hate Twitter.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
I don’t have a blog. Man am I not up on my ish.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
I think your blog is definitely an accurate portrayal of the person you are in real life. Your blogs are blunt, honest, and insightful – as you are in person, no matter what the subject of conversation may be.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
“Too much” can only be determined by what people want to hear. Your life storied intrigue me, so, though you already share soo much information about yourself, I always want to know more. Your blog is your domain. There can never be too much said, especially when you want people to know who you are, what you stand for, and what you continue to learn.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
Never.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
Yes! Almost on the daily. I know this is because we’ve had such different life experiences, so your perspective on things may be different, and because you’re older, more developed than mine. I know that if I ever cannot get a hold of you in person for some advice, your blog archive will help me.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
Me + D’Angelo = No More
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
Though you have become a successful individual, given your life experiences, would you change anything in your past if you knew you would still end up where you are today?
Anything else you wanna add:
I wear my Bossin’ sweater religiously
I would actually like to know the answer to Chantle’s question.
Name: Zineb
Age: 24
Gender: Female
Where are you from? Born in morocco, lived in Boston now living in Toronto.
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?) Yes, many times.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now? I just thought you were cute, didn’t know anything about you. I still think you’re cute…in your own special way but your personality won over your looks which is a great thing and now i value our friendship a whole lot.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are? Some of them. Some other ones i’m just talkin out my ___
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are? Some posts are…some i’m just talking out my ____
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”? Some of them are…some you are just talking out your _____
Do you think I say/give/express too much? Just enough to sort of understand you but not enough to spoil it for the ones that are special enough to know all of you.
Do you think you say/give/express too little? It honestly depends on my mood, at times i feel “o shit i expressed too much” and i feel great after but i am known for always keepin’ em guessing.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything? Yes.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know? That I take in EVERYTHING you write about, good bad happy or sad and never apologize for anything you have said or done cuz then you wouldn’t be the guy that we are all in love with.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be? When is the wedding and can i please have “her” this christmas?? cuz u bailed on me for the past 2 yrs
Anything else you wanna add: I love and appreciate you from the bottom of my heart.
xo
Zineb
wow… :D
“What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?”
I love you! :) and I’m so so blessed to have you around as family :) never forget it kuya <3
Damn.. the questions you guys are asking back of me are amazing.
I’m going through all of them right now and will answer them in the next update..
Name: Stephanie
Age: 18
Gender: Female
Where are you from? Puerto Rico
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)
No we haven’t. I was on someone else’s blog, can’t remember who, & they had a IdeaLL Shirt on & linked it back to your blog.
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now?
My first impression of you was that you were a very talented & intelligent individual. Following your blog for about a year, my impression of you is greater than my first impression.
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Somewhat. They’re random thoughts but I don’t think you can fully analyze someone by their tweets. They’re still being subject to public opinion & that sometimes causes people to hide certain aspects or exaggerate on others.
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?
Also, somewhat. I think it’s more accurate than Twitter because it’s easier to remain anonymous through a blog. Plus, most blog posts are deeper than a tweet.
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
Obviously there’s more to you than your blog posts and tweets, but I think they’re accurate… from what I can access.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
I don’t think so. I think only someone that knows you very well can answer this question truthfully.
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
Very much so. The easiest emotion for me to express is anger and that’s usually the only one people are able to get out of me.
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
You changed my perspective on fatherhood. I was raised by a single mother, raised by a single mother. Everyone around me is a single mother with non-existent fathers around. I had a concrete idea in my head that all fathers are like this. I never experienced fatherly love, from my own, or ever witnessed it by anyone else. You changed that in my mind.
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
Well for starters I LOVE your clothing line. I have 3 shirts but I would have all of ‘em if it wasn’t for my lack of funds. I really hope one day I can walk into a store somewhere in Florida and be able to buy some of your pieces. & you probably know this but you affect a lot of people around you. I don’t know you personally but I can be almost positive of this.
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
OHHH, when’s the next sale? LOL.
Anything else you wanna add:
I really hope everything goes well for you. You can’t help but wish successful for those who deserve it and actually work for it.
I came up with another question to ask you. Hopefully I haven’t reached my maximum. I want to know what will happen to The Legends League when you pass away? I know this may sound morbid but since you are the creator and controller of The LL I’m wondering if you’ve thought about that, and what you hope will happen once you pass on.
Name:mike burns
Age:26
Gender:male
Where are you from? cali
Have we ever met in person? (If no, how did you hear about me or my blog?)yes, im your cousin
What was your first impression of me and is that impression still the same now? my first impression of you is that you like to choke on lego pieces….now you dont…hahaha..you re a good dude
If you’re on Twitter, do you think your tweets are an accurate portrayal of who you are?no twitter
If you have a blog, do you think your blog is an accurate portrayal of who you are?no blog
Do you think my Twitter and blog are accurate portrayals of the person I am in “real life”?
dont read your tweets…but your blog, yes it portrays you quite well, i think.
Do you think I say/give/express too much?
no
Do you think you say/give/express too little?
sometimes
Has my blog ever helped you with a personal issue, or changed your perspective or opinion on anything?
yes
What is something about yourself that as a reader of my blog, you think I’d wanna know?
if i still pick my nose
If you could ask me anything, what would it be?
when are you commin back to cali, or meet me in n.y.
Anything else you wanna add:
merry xmas!
You’re a loser… lol.
Excellent writing…